Life is tough; this is a fact. No matter how good you are and how amazing your life is, there will be times when your entire world will spin, and you will feel like the universe has betrayed you.
You need to have the right information and expectations to go through dark times and emerge a better person.
Here are some tips to guide you through life’s tough times:
1. Find the opportunity in every difficulty
When life throws stones at you, you can decide if they are stumbling blocks or stepping stones.
What happens to you is not as important as how you interpret them and how you choose to respond to them. Every challenge you face in life will always present you with a chance to give up and an opportunity to succeed.
Take a closer look at your situation and begin to explore for the opportunities they are presenting.
2. Write a journal
Journaling is one of the best ways to fortify your mind from being attacked by what is happening around you.
It works by helping you to channel the negative emotions into the words as you write out your frustrations, fears and anger. It also keeps records of the happy and fulfilling times, these helps you to lift the gloom when you are down.
3. Surround yourself with positive people
This is one vital part of coping when things are going south all around you; you only go down when you have not surrounded yourself with the right kind of people.
You must have a network of people in your life who are committed to your success and are there to make sure you keep soaring in life.
They must be people with the necessary skills to identify your threats, to see when you are struggling and to be able to get you out of trouble fast.
When life begins to punch you hard, one of the most crucial steps is to communicate and ask for help. There is nothing wrong in asking for help; in fact, it keeps you humble and helps the people around you to play their roles in your emerging story. When you are going down, ask for help.
4. Work out!
When you desperately need a new gear to survive, you may need to go physical on this.
Exercise works in two ways; it reduces the production of stress hormones and helps to create a sense of achievement for the new reps you are doing or the distance you have covered.
Working out helps you to respond to situation physically, emotionally and psychologically; it reboots the body, refocus the mind and stabilize emotions.
5. Help somebody else
When life has dealt you a heavy hand, one of the best responses is to look around you and try to make life easier for someone else.
The truth is that most people want to be helped and assisted while they are not willing to contribute to the lives of the people around them.
Look away from your problems for one moment, and you will see how you can be of help to other people; don’t wait till you have everything going well for you; no matter how bad it is for you, some people are having it worse.
6. Be realistic, and expect ups and downs
Life is not fair, and it is designed to defeat the weak. Life owes you nothing, and that should be one of the first lessons you learn before you go about dreaming about success.
You must be prepared to ride the bumpy road of life with grace and endurance; you must be ready to wade through the rough stormy tides and endure the long cold nights before you get to your promised land. What is important about life is to plan and expect safe landing, not necessarily smooth sailing.
7. Inspire yourself with a smile and positive reminders
Though it seems everything is going against you and the entire universe has conspired to make your life miserable; you need to keep a calm head and remember where you started and how far you have come.
You need to constantly remind yourself of the things that are working in your life and be grateful for them.
8. Work on the things you can control
I know things look pretty bad and you seem not to be able to control what is happening to you, I feel your pain. However, you need to be able to remember that there are certain things around you that you can control.
You may not be able to control the situation out there, but you can control how you respond or react to them. Decide that you will respond with calmness, grace, and positivity and you will begin to see things from a different perspective.
Never allow your challenges to lock you out of your life; stop thinking like the victim; get back into the driving seat of your life and work things out. Use what you have right where you are, for what you have is more than enough.
9. Count your blessings
Gratitude is one of the most robust responses to failure, delay, and stagnation. Look around you and rediscover what is working and how much you need to be grateful for what you have.
Stop crying over how much life has denied you and what you don’t have; spend more time in gratitude for the gift of life, your good health, all the wonderful ideas you have, the amazing people in your life, your heartwarming pets and your charming daughter!
Look around you again, trust me, you have every reason to be thankful. Try it, and you will literarily see life smiling down on you.